I'm hurting as I sit and type now.
But it's a good hurt. One that tells me I'm a good person and I did a good job. It gives me permission to be lazy. It forgives me for recent harms past. This week, it was ordering McDonald's hot fudge sundaes. With extra hot fudge.
I am addicted to sugar. Alcohol used to give me that fix. I liked margaritas and cosmos and mojitos and blue hurricanes and tornadoes and torpedoes - anything bright-colored and/or topped with an umbrella. But hold the cherry. Those are unhealthy.
What a health-nut hypocrite I was. I will miss you, pineapple-raspberry-infused-vodkas at Mariner's Grill in Narragansett, and jalapeño margaritas at Tortilla Flats, and to-die-for-sangria at Circe on Weybosset.
I need sugar. It fills a void in my life.
A few weeks before I gave up alcohol, I took up coffee.
It happened at an all-day teachers' professional development meeting the last week of August. I was staring at two big brown Dunkin Donuts Boxes O' Joe, repeatedly being poured away into my fellow co-workers' desperately draining cups and souls, and I thought, whatever this Joe has, I want it.
It was too much for my digestive system though. I underwent a cleansing I'd never experienced in 34 years, even in the deepest throws of my 30-day juice fast. A few days later, I tried coffee again at McDonald's, and it was much less intestinally invasive. I've been a drive-through fanatic every day for the past two months now. One large hot coffee 5 cream. No sugar.
My sugar cravings come at night, when there's nothing left in life to enjoy. I don't have a tv, can't watch Wheel of Fortune. I don't have a boyfriend to talk to or kids to cook for or a cat to kick.
I try to avoid eating for the first couple hours I get home from work. I turn on my electric fireplace. I light a candle and eat a sandwich. I pick up the clothes scattered about from this morning's attempt to get dressed. I crack my knuckles and stretch my back and socially network and browse Netflix.
But the tranquility of this rectangle room is insufficient. The fake flames and computer pixels only get me so close to happiness. Chocolate is calling. I imagine it melting in my mouth. This thought takes the cake. Once I've drooled over the notion of chocolate for even a moment, it's over. And I'm walking to Wholefoods around the corner, and raiding the chocolate section of the bakery.
I've been mostly eating chocolate covered pretzels, about a half pound per day. And when that's not enough, I've been visiting McDonald's (in the same plaza) for a hot fudge sundae. What a loser I am. I tell myself it's okay. I'm not dating anyone right now. No one has to look at or smell me. I can detox later. I'm not having kids. I don't even think I'll ever have sex again. Unless I meet Mr. Right, which I'm told will happen when I'm least expecting it.
I started season 1 of How I Met Your Mother recently, and when Bob Saget opens the narration of episode 15 with the story of how he met Victoria - the chick who baked cakes - he says he met her when he least expected it. He used that phrase. Least expected it.
People have been telling me the same thing for about 8 months now. Ever since I started online dating. Friends, coworkers, family... "It'll happen when you least expect it." And recently, the pastor at my church started preaching a series on christian marriage and dating, and he used the phrase last Sunday.
So maybe I'm hearing this message for a reason. Maybe it really will happen. When I least expect it. When I've finally given up on love completely and I'm standing at the edge of this illusively hopeful bridge, overlooking a harsh sea of reality, and I assume my suicide jump, along he comes, in some sexy boat, and catches me.
But for now the only thing keeping me happy is sugar. Sugar and shopping. I have a spending problem too. But it's arguably cheaper than therapy. If I didn't have insurance that covered therapy. So maybe not so arguable. But I therapeutically splurged on a nice down comforter from Cosco last week. I had to do it. It might be the closest thing to a warm body I'll have in my bed for the next few years.
